My sex nerd thoughts on squirting orgasms.


Inspiration for this share is from a question that was asked in a private, business oriented group. Sex is everywhere! Go figure! The question was about if women found them agonizing or amazing. The conversation quickly revealed a number of women who had never heard of them!

Before I experienced it for the first time, I honestly didn’t think it was something physically possible for my body to do. I remember a reallllly disgusting video someone showed me once of a big unkempt redneck woman showing her mattress and saying to the camera “those aren’t pee stains, that’s squirt y’all”. I was made aware and put off from it all at the same time.


I mean, if I could do it I’d have already figured it out. . .right?

Nope. . .I was wrong.

And naturally, my geeky side took over just after it happened for the first time and I became quite the investigator on the subject. This topic is probably a the one I speak about the most when in conversations with other women. For those who could use a little clarity, here ya go!
Female ejaculation/squirting orgasms as a very quick overview –


Where does it come from?

In female human anatomy, Skene’s glands or the Skene glands (/skiːn/ SKEEN; also known as the lesser vestibular glands, periurethral glands, paraurethral glands, or homologous female prostate) are glands located on the anterior wall of the vagina, around the lower end of the urethra.


Biologically it is SPECULATED (how fucking crazy? we are this advanced as a species, especially technologically and we are still speculating on this) that this is a woman’s “would be prostate” if we would have in fact developed into a biosex male. It is believed the skene’s glad is either directly onside the G-spot (Gräfenberg spot – named after a German OBGYN) or a part of it – science still working on it.

Fluid releases when the gland *still scientific speculation* swells during sexual arousal.

In my opinion, only certain types of sexual arousal get you to a point where this swells enough to allow for a gland release, which is the fluid ‘gushing’ you experience during a squirting orgasm. It is mostly water, some glandular fluid (vague I know) and a little but of urine (not gross, just life).


In order to get to the point of release. . .

SOME people have to do a bunch of trust building exercises and mental work. This orgasm, for many, has a lot to do with relinquishing control and allowing it to happen, knowing that it is not a bad thing and know that you will not in fact pee on yourself (unless you suffer with urinary incontinence).

SOME women have a G-spot that is easier to stimulate. A good G-spot stimulation (insert finger, come here motion – under the pubic bone/top of vaginal wall) increases the likelihood of ejaculation. No trust necessary, it’ll happen regardless with the right amount of pressure, technique and good timing.
I have met a number of women who only understand sex with this as a component. Some grew up avoiding sex because it was messy and because it freaked out their partners. That adds a whole different element to the female ejaculation experience – shame.

The build up to a squirting orgasm is/can be very different from the build up towards any other climax. Those, you can feel spurts of on the brink to bliss.

Female ejaculation can work like a spectrum and is not the same.

Sometimes, liquid bursts from the gland duct (which may be a part of the urethral duct, hence the tiny about of urine. cleansing gesture from the body btw)

Sometimes it is a slower more controlled release.


Every. . .body. . .is different.


For some it’s a bit harder to let go of control and give in to this experience fully. If you are with a partner that is going for that or has making you do that in mind, and you know it, the anticipation may prevent you from experiencing it.

That nervousness or excitement in the wrong direction effects your “turn on” and your arousal level, which effects how swollen the gland gets. . .get it?

If your partner is rough with the amount of pressure to the G-spot or forceful with the motion to bring you to orgasm, it can be incredibly, physically exhausting, as you have no control of the letting go that occurs. At times the experience can be painful, just like when your hand is forced during other life situations that you can’t be in control of. Pain manifesting in different ways. Though for most, even this scene and build up to orgasm is exhilarating. And a reminder that pain as pleasure releases up to 400% more dopamine (feel good neurochemical) in the brain than pleasure alone.


A less invasive way would be to try priming the G-spot and then use vigorous motion/friction around the duct of the glad/urethra. It almost, in a sense, releases the lock on the floodgates. Since it is the point of excretion.

Test the waters, you know. #punintended

If it hurts, change how you achieve it.

If it is still uncomfortable, make it a part of your “what are you into?” “what are your limits?” conversation (that I hope you are having) before sex. Tell your partner/potential partner that you do not like it.

If/when it feels wonderful – DO MORE OF THAT J


I hope my bio lesson helps y’all out!


The reason why I do the work I do, and I think most of us are this way, is because the more we understand things the better chance we have to bring more respect, grace, freedom and love into our lives


Happy showers,




Side piece –

Freud really fucked us up by making women think that clitoral orgasms were an immature way of climaxing and that vaginal orgasm was a more mature and womanly way to experience it. WRONG.

I love ya Freud, really I do. . .but ya got that one wrong. . .and it’ll take several decades for us to correct the woman’s psyche on that.


Ladies –

You aren’t doing anything wrong and nothing is wrong if you can’t get to an orgasm this way.

Nothing is wrong if every orgasm is/has always been this way.

And just incase you haven’t told her recently, remind your vagina how amazing she is and thank her for being there <3

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