SEXUAL DESPERATION TO LIBERATION

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It took me four months to decide… Enough is enough, Alexa. If you don’t put yourself out there, you’ll just keep feeling sorry for yourself. You were in a sexless relationship, which you left so you could embrace your sexuality for the first time, and what do you do instead? You choose to hide from […]

ON SATURDAY, I WENT TO A SWINGERS CLUB…

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Growing up, if I really think about it, I wasn’t taught all that much about how relationships were supposed to develop. I was basically left to just “wing it”, which I think is how the majority of us are taught. I knew what was the norm, and I knew that if I didn’t achieve that […]

I THOUGHT I HAD CHLAMYDIA

I THOUGHT I HAD CHLAMYDIA

I’m not sure if I actually had chlamydia, but I took some antibiotics anyway. As it turns out, it’s quite a common occurrence. It’s especially common in places like… the deep south of America, where “abstinence only” sex education is the mandate and young people are not given any useful information on how sex actually works in […]

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KICK YOUR BORING SEX HABIT

How to Kick Your Boring Sex Habit

Every Tuesday, you do the same thing. Wake up, have breakfast, go to work, come home, have dinner and commence your weekly duty of “lovemaking”. These days, it seems as though sex is just another thing to tick off of your to-do list. You ask yourself, where did the passion go? We used to be […]

The Butterfly Effect of a Sexual Abuse Survivor: The Joyful Little Girl Returns from a Forever of Fear

The Butterfly Effect of A Sexual Abuse Survivor

She has DADDY ISSUES

She has DADDY ISSUES

When I was a little girl, the weeks before and after my birthday were filled with palpable anticipation, but it was not for the presents or the cake or the party. It had nothing to do with the attention I was sure to get from my mom, sister, and the few friends I had. It […]

What to do when it smells “down there”

As a sex coach, there isn’t much that surprises me these days. The topics I cover with singles and couple of all ethnicities, ages, races, religions and gender identities is vast and ever changing. I often get asked what types of questions do I get asked the most, and often my response is the “Am […]